Divorcing Without Resentment
Sue Klebold, the author of 'A Mother's Reckoning: Living in the Aftermath of Tragedy,' a book about the Columbine High School massacre, discovered our team through a family member's recommendation. Sue and her husband, Tom, had been married for 43 years.
“We didn’t want to involve costly attorneys, use up our limited resources, and turn our marriage into a battleground,” Sue explained.
Sue and Tom weren’t certain that divorce would be the ultimate outcome of their mediation.
Sue recalls, “When we went in, our life felt like a tangle of knots that couldn’t be untied. The stress of trying to decide what to do with our marriage felt unbearable.”
For this reason, we elected to include a family therapist as part of the process. Sue and Tom met with the therapist privately, as well as during the mediation sessions. Eventually Sue and Tom agreed that a divorce was the best decision.
We were able to help Sue and Tom in navigating the complexities that arose from their decision to divorce, which included resolving disputes over previously unresolved assets. Additionally, we provided guidance on often overlooked aspects like tax implications and retirement planning. Sue described the experience as, "It made the impossible possible."
Because Sue and Tom walked through divorce outside the traditional court systems, they were able to remain in control of the process and strike an important balance between the emotional and financial aspects of their experience.
When we asked Sue how she felt when reflecting on our work together, she explained that, after talking to others who had gone through lengthier, more expensive, and contentious divorces, she was grateful to have taken a different route — one that enabled her and Tom to monitor their feelings and prioritize self-care.
“Although it was never painless, I have no bad or stressful memories about the process," Sue explained. "There is no resentment. I would never want to go through a divorce or separation any other way.”